I’m not actually codependent. I know this because after I left my alcoholic husband, I no longer feel the need to control my partner’s behaviors. When women have healthy partners, we feel safe. When we feel safe, we can relax and contribute to our relationships as partners and not as mothers. Alanon preaches to the world that spouses of alcoholics are codependent enablers who need to control. Well, yeah… how could we not be. We live with a monster who moves through our lives like a tornado and w